Need advice

[G.O.D]

Ok, so if you aren't aware of it yet. Jasmine and me are broken up (well technically we're on break till she can rebuild her life but it's been so long it might as well be a break up). I still care about her alot and worry about her. But I know it's stupid to get caught up on this. And although I still hope that eventually we'll get back together, I know realistically it's probably not going happen and that just being good friends should be good (when she can afford the time to check her email).

Anyway..this female friend of mine, she told me "I feel like I'm addicted to you". She wanted to know how I felt so I told her I'd talk to her next week about this since I didn't want to do it over Google Talk.

I'm thinking about explaining to her my current situation, and thinking about going on a casual date. Like seeing a movie when both of us have an opening so we can get to know each other better. (I met her a few semesters ago in a class and we've been friends. Recently I've started going to lunch with her and her best friend every Thursday).

Any suggestions for my situation?

[Merideth]

Definitely go for the girl that's live and in person. I never really understood the relationship with Jasmine. You guys never met in person and yet you seemed to put your entire dating situation on hold for her. Its much more realistic to go for the girl who you can actually hold hands with, go to the movies with, look in the eye, etc. That doesn't mean what you felt for Jasmine wasn't real, but its not the kind of relationship you can build a future on if you don't spend in time at all in each other's presence.

[G.O.D]

Yeah..we did plan on meeting in person it's just that we could never sync up our schedules. Whenever I found time open to travel to Oregon, she had problems to take care of or couldn't take time off work. So a meeting that was suppose to take place a few months after we hooked up, kept getting pushed back.

I guess the thing for both of us that it was convient though. It provided strong emotional support without having to physically be there for each other sometimes.

[Sholix]

You can still be each others support system without sacrificing a physical relationship with someone you're able to actuall "be" with.

Go for the "in=person" thing GOD. If it works out between you and Jasmine so be it but don't deny yourself real-time companionship on a hope and a prayer.

Who knows? It may not work out with this new girl either, but you'll at least have given it a try.


Good luck!

[G.O.D]

K, thanks. I'll tell her how I feel about it tomorrow then. Probably have to take it slow and get to know her better before if I decide I want to jump into a relationship.

[Sholix]

So is there an update yet?

[G.O.D]

Well I told her everything. About Jasmine and that I like her (Alex) too. She said she needs some time to think about it. The problem is she's really shy and she tells me her parents are restrictive (even though when I asked her if she asks for permission they usually say yes). I can tell she likes me though by her actions. I asked if she wanted to go to the Cherry Blossem festival and she said yeah.

Though the more we talk it seems our personalities are completly different...so there's not as much going on there as I had hoped..

Funny thing is I'm making friends with tons of girls. And being better friends with this girl Kristen. She and I have alot in common (her personality also reminds me alot of Jasmine's.. they're both a bit nuts lol). She and I are good friends and I like her. Though I don't want to make a move or do anything because she has a boyfriend (since Janurary). And their relationship has recently smoothed out over Spring Break. So I'm happy being friends for now. We're seeing Spiderman 3 when it comes out (we're both Spiderman fans ).

I still miss Jasmine though. I haven't gotten an email reply from her in ages..I wish I knew how she was doing. I hope she's ok.

[G.O.D]

Oh and Alex can't handle a dirty joke : . She jokingly said I suck so my response is "no you suck" which turns into a no you suck battle. Which usually ends with (I'm use to this with Jasmine) no you suck.. literally. Which offended Alex slightly.

While with Kristen..for example earlier we were hanging with a bunch of friends and something funny was said. So she started choking on her water. So I said swallow (which made her laugh even more. Yeah her mind is in the gutter..mine is too after I spent 3 years with Jasmine lol). don't spit.

[Sholix]

Some girls are embarrassed when a young man tells a dirty joke or says something that has a double meaning.
Even when the same thing doesn't bother them when said by another girl.

And you're expected to miss Jasmine. You 2 were "close" for a long time, and even though you only knew her via the internet, she was still very much a friend.
Have you tried asking any of the people you 2 have mutual friendshipa with to try and get in touch with her and see how she's doing?

[G.O.D]

Well besides you guys, I don't really know anyone else. Except maybe outdated phone #s and people who don't go online to check their opendiaries that much..

And yeah, I understand that. It's just that I'd be more comfortable around someone that can handle things like that.. like Kristen.

Though now I really don't think I should have a girlfriend. As it seems to me it's more like I'm trying to replace Jasmine rather then loving the girl for who she is herself.

So rather I've been just spending alot of time with friends. Like this past entire weekend I spent the nights with my friends. We went to the Computer Science's Casino Night (for some female computer science club organization.. I don't remember the name). Then Saturday we saw Blades of Glory and Sunday we saw the Cultural Explosion 2007 show at Stamp.

It's fun. And I spent Saturday night up to 1am with the girls watching a horrible SNL and waiting on our cookies (the bloody driver got lost!).

[Tegs]

You need to get layed son

find a nice girl and suprise sex her

What are you some sort of cissy

[G.O.D]

Yeah I do need some random sex. It's actually pretty easy.. me being on a college campus on all. I just don't feel like playing landmine. (winding up with an STD or crazy wacko )

And the situation with Kristen is sort of eh too lol. I'm curious..how many girls here would forgive a guy within a day for not calling you on your birthday.

[Sholix]

My "Significant Other"? The day after Dooms Day!
A casual friend? Right away. A really close, long-term friend a couple of days.

I'm lousey with dates myself so I have an alarm set on my Palm Pilot.


Just don't forget your jacket GOD and you'll be safe from the STDs' {unless you wind up with a defective one}

[Sholix]

My "Significant Other"? The day after Dooms Day!
A casual friend? Right away. A really close, long-term friend a couple of days.

I'm lousey with dates myself so I have an alarm set on my Palm Pilot.


Just don't forget your jacket GOD and you'll be safe from the STDs' {unless you wind up with a defective one}

[G.O.D]

Nah I remembered her birthday. I gave her (what she said was the best present). She's a huge Legend of Zelda fan so I gave her this Link wallscroll I had (she had said she wanted it).

Hey boyfriend forgot to call her on her birthday lol and when one of her friends sent him a message to "remind him". He left a message at 2 am the next day complaining about how he doesn't like being told what to do lol.

Their relationship is interesting to watch..its her first relationship though she doesn't think it's a serious one. I don't think so either since neither really seems to devote time to it (calling each other once in a while, etc..).

Anyway..she and I are going to an My Chemical Romance and Muse concert together (barring anything the Universe decides to toss my way). Kinda odd considering it was Jasmine who introduced me to MCR...

Not all STDs can be protected by jackets lol.